I tried everything. Phone, DSLR, drone. All sorts of cameras. No matter what, the pictures were always missing something. The light just was not the same. The slight shades of the mountains in the background, the color grades in the valleys, the intensity of the green fields. It all somehow did not come across. After all these long flights, I wanted to capture that light at all cost and take it home with me, but I could not, no matter how hard I tried. In the end, I gave up. I started taking less pictures. I used the time to actually see and admire the vast, untouched landscapes of New Zealand that lay before me. I finally understood what makes this country so special and worth the long trip. The light. The scale. The harshness. Fortunately, photography remains a form of art and not a substitute for the actual experience. A picture may convey feelings that one would not feel in person, but the other way around is much more likely.

Notice the boat at the bottom of the waterfall (Stirling Falls, Milford Sound fiord)

A terrible feeling invaded me. It took me a while to understand what was happening in my mind. I had never perceived religion in this way. For all of my life, religion was a choice. I chose whether to believe in a God. And now, I confronted a scenario in which religion was a given. Of course, according to religion, there is nothing to choose. One simply is part of a religious community. And the rules that the religion defines are non-negotiable. They simply exist as well, and no amount of resistance or rebellion can change them because they are given by God. The thought scared me to death. Freedom is limited in many places on Earth, but it is theoretically possible to rebel against that oppression because it comes from other humans. But if God dictates how things should be, nothing can overturn those rules. All of this is well known, but facing it closely made it real. I cannot imagine anyone wanting to be part of such a system voluntarily.

The cathedral of Palermo. As long as religion is a choice, it provides great guidelines.

As I watched the nearby island melting with the warm colors of a perfect sunset, a strange feeling came up in me. The little Greek island was just two kilometers off the Turkish coast on which I was standing. For the past week, I had traveled and admired the Turkish Riviera in all its beauty. I had tasted its amazing food, I had swum in its turquoise waters, I had visited its ancient wonders. On earlier trips to Greece, I had done very similar things, yet something felt very different. That evening, I finally understood. As I watched across to the Greek island, a feeling of belonging came up in me. In Greece, I was a European visiting Europe. In Turkey, I was a foreigner visiting a faraway land, even if just two kilometers apart. While deeply rooted in the European identity, I believe that being a foreigner is the best way to learn and grow through curiosity and observation. One does not become a different person, but a more receptive one.

The Greek island of Καστελλόριζο and the Turkish coast at Kaş

I have a very clear memory of the taste of the white cheese that was served at the little restaurant down the road. As a child, I would sit on the restaurant terrace on summer evenings, tasting the fresh Quark while a mild breeze brushed over the nearby fields. The little restaurant is long closed. And so is the restaurant of the old farm that was on the other side of the forest. Not profitable. The next generation moved away and took better jobs in the city. We used to go there in the slaughter season to eat the tastiest fresh sausages and traditional dishes that I have ever had. All gone. Longing to relive those tastes, I asked my relatives which restaurants in the area would serve such dishes nowadays. Their answer was devastating: none. All replaced with pizza, pasta, burger. Or in the best case, with industrial versions of those traditional dishes. The peaceful feeling that came along with those extinct tastes from my childhood is gone.

A frame from an old family video showing the extinct white cheese in August 1995

Being in the moment. Who would not want that. It has been a while since I became aware of how important that is. And for quite some time, I have been neglecting it. My excuse is that I have too many tasks to worry about, but that is the worst excuse ever. Many people are busier than me, yet seem to have more time. This paradox is actually the root of the problem. The causality is wrong. It is not that I am not in the moment because I do not have time for it; rather, I do not have time because I am not in the moment. As soon as one takes the time to be present, the bubble of stress one is living in bursts and one starts having time for so many things. Most importantly, one can start right away doing and enjoying the things one really cares about, instead of wasting time worrying about not being able to do everything. One may never get to do some of the tasks, but being present and enjoying the ones one gets to do, is more than satisfying enough.

I did not do many things that day. But sitting by the lake was all I needed.

Maybe listening to a podcast about nuclear close calls influenced my mood. Maybe it was because I peeked again into the inconceivable void that opens up when being aware of death. Or maybe it was because my mind went one more time through the realization that the vast majority of human beings want nothing else than a happy life close to the people they care about. Probably it was the combination of all, but all of a sudden, a wonderful feeling of all-encompassing love came up in myself. Unconditional love for everyone and everything, knowing that any hostile or hateful behavior is rooted almost always in fear. And a deep compassion for that fear, which is often a mix of insecurity and anxiety. Excessive selfishness, greed, anger, and many other unpleasant feelings build on top, but fear is the underlying cause. Trying to escape it only makes it stronger. Welcome the fear and it will eventually fade into a sea of solace.

Even the strongest sun fades into the sea every evening

I looked out of the window as the plane slowly taxied to the runway. Everything seemed as usual, but something was off. I just could not name it. We passed the modern T4 buildings and turned towards the northern runways for take off. I observed the slope that separates the airport from the nearby villages. And then it struck me. The slope was green. It was green in a country that is mostly yellow. The past months had been rainy due to a surprising weather phenomenon, and for the first time in as far as I can remember, the landscape was green. As the plane took off and started its climb, a wonderful spectacle unfolded in the mild evening sun. Green as far as the eye could see. Fields, mountains, valleys. Everything was green. The view was surprisingly soothing. My jaw relaxed and I suddenly realized how stressed I had been. Finally, the plane reached its cruising altitude, one of the few generally peaceful places left on Earth.

An unexpected green view

Easter eggs are not a thing in Spain. But I have been one of those kids searching for hidden eggs the times that I spent the Easter holiday with my German family. For the first time in at least two decades, I did so again this year. In the meantime, it is not me looking for the eggs anymore but helping to hide them for the next generation of excited kids. After the game, we moved to a delightfully decorated table with cakes and baskets of colorful hard boiled eggs. And it was in that moment that I reconnected with a feeling that I had almost forgotten. Even if I grew up in a country where the Easter egg hunt plays no role at all, coming in contact with it as a child made it part of me. I experienced a warm-hearted sense of belonging that made me feel at home. This reminded me to appreciate the ability to understand the traditions of two different societies, and wonder how it must be for the ones whose parents are from much more diverse countries.

The hidden eggs were not these ones, but little chocolate eggs

The Ehrenberg castle is well renovated, but not connected to public transport whatsoever. The nearest bus stop is half an hour away on foot and is served only once every two hours. But I really wanted to visit that castle, and I had at most three hours to do so. I hopped on the train to the nearby town of Reutte without a clear plan on how to get to my destination. Uber quoted 20+ € each way from the train station, which felt quite steep. I was about to go for the infrequent bus, when I saw an inconspicuous link at the bottom of the castle's website. RegioFlink. I landed on a page offering On-Demand-Shuttle-Services as part of public transport. I clicked my way through the clumsy page with very little hope that this would lead anywhere. And suddenly, there it was. Book this ride in 10 minutes for 2.9 €. I booked it, got off the train, and as I exited the station, a spacious, empty van stopped in front of me. Shortly after, I was at the castle.

Ehrenberg castle at the top of a mountain

It felt unreal. An hour-long commute had become a matter of a few minutes. After exploring the castle and a nearby pedestrian suspension bridge, I started wondering how to get back. I checked the shuttle service again, but no ride was available. Getting one in the town had been easy, but not the other way around. I checked multiple times to no avail. As I cursed myself for coming to the middle of nowhere with no clear plan to get back, a ride popped up and I made it back on time to the train station. I just could not believe it. The journey could have been really unpleasant. Endless waiting times at bus or train stops. Crazily expensive taxi rides. Hours of walking along unsafe roads. This time I really felt the luck, but it helped me to remember that luck is often invisible yet omnipresent. So many things could go wrong all the time, yet most of us have the luck to breathe, be healthy, be safe, and one should not take that for granted.

The suspension bridge is what had actually caught my attention in the first place

I almost never find time to watch movies, except on airplanes. As life comes to a pause on flights, I finally have an excuse to sit back and watch something. On a recent flight, I was happy to find Inside Out 2 on the entertainment system. As in the first part, the movie is about personified emotions that influence the behavior of the main character, and about the challenges that arise when trying to suppress them. The personification shows very nicely that a thought is at the start of every emotion. For example, anger does not arise directly out of a situation, but only after the mind has realized what is going on and judged in a split second that anger is the right response. In a second round of self-awareness, the mind may decide whether it wants to feel anger, but the anger itself already reveals a lot of the beliefs of the mind and is thus valuable side information about oneself. The emotion is just the messenger and one should not kill the messenger.

San Francisco downtown as the plane takes off to a pause full of emotions